As part of my occasional posts on marriage and committed relationships I appreciated the insights contained in a brief online article by Lizzy Ziogas. It’s titled: The 5 Ingredients to Create A Conscious Relationship. “Conscious”, contra “Unconscious” relationships are such important concepts to understand. ‘Characteristics’, as described in this article are helpful both in evaluating the heath of an existing relationship, or in reviewing ones that hadn’t worked out.
Again, as I’ve said in relationship to pre-marriage counseling, I would use a list of characteristics such as the one I referenced in today’s post as a means of talking through what makes for a marriage that is growing, deepening and thriving – a conscious relationship.
Here’s an excerpt:
“…Creating a thriving conscious relationship requires us to bring our most valuable gifts to the table. When I say “valuable gifts” I’m not talking about a fancy car or a diamond ring; I’m talking about our gifts of responsibility, vulnerability, listening, trust and commitment. These are the key ingredients that create and sustain a deeply fulfilling conscious relationship.
Responsibility is the willingness to take ownership over any “baggage” that we bring to our relationships—most of our core wounds, fears and traumas develop as a child within our relationship to our primary care givers.
A relationship works when each participant has the self-awareness to take a deep look within themselves and choose to be real about how their life experiences as a child shape how they respond to life as an adult…”
Read the rest of this article here.