Paul writes – Following on from this recent post about the formational importance of dialogue, conversation, listening, and making space for the “other”, Alan Roxburgh offers some thoughts on the importance of listening, particularly with respect to missional leadership and the work of listening and discerning (see this recent post by Steve Taylor) in our communities. Notice too the importance of sitting at table, and of food and wine. There is something profound in the simple act of “breaking bread together”.
Alan writes:
“…Missional leadership is … about learning to become the one who calls forth, calls back into life and gives voice to the screaming voices, the choruses of voices out there in our neighborhoods and communities. This is where the Spirit is out ahead, in front of us. I thank God for long evenings, tables with great food and good wine, where we can be surprised by conversations, where voices can emerge that take us by surprise and move us to places that we could never imagine in the rush of our self imposed busyness. I love the neighborhood where I can sit down at a table on a front lawn and talk with people, amazed by them and their stories as we encounter one another in the ordinariness of an evening and conversation. Such pleasure in relationships and others far exceeds the superficiality of new technologies and social networking.”
You can read Al’s full post here.
Deep listening isn’t easy. The invitation is always to listen more deeply – listening not only to the “other”, but also to your own life – listening beneath your frustration, your own negative or melancholic tendencies to see responses as shades of black, your disappointment, your excitement, your inner judgements, and your hopes for resonance.
Listening beneath all that you experience in the course of conversation and dialogue is hard work. It’s tiring, and this is all the more so when you and the “other” are in different places, and oftentimes with very different hopes and needs. You need to push through the tendency at times like this to close down and to discontinue listening.
But then, there’s still more that has to be done! Beyond listening to the “other” and beyond listening beneath the surface of your own life, there is the critically important need to listen for the still small voice of the Spirit.
Finally, there is always the possibility, I suspect, that we’re listening, discerning and acting in the wrong place. Steve Taylor recently quoted Jonny Baker who said: “change or newness is most likely to come from having people work at both the centre and the edge”. Perhaps the place or the group where we are listening is the wrong place for us. Maybe we’re better at listening and working for change at the “centre” (say, for example, within a church congregation), rather than at “the edge” (say, beyond the church congregation)? In our listening to the other, perhaps we discover that we’re longing for and needing different things?
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