JR Woodward provides an overview of Scarzzero’s book which reminds me again that emotionally healthy churches (or families etc} are made up of “healthy” individuals in healthy relationship with themselves, who live these principles in their own relationships, in their own friendships, within their own families etc. They're insights into relating, so if "church" is an issue and your experience was far from "healthy", think "relationships", think "marriage", or some other social / relational context where you contribute to its "health" or otherwise...
Here’s how JR Woodward summarises the book. I quote in full:
“If you have never had a chance to read The Emotionally Healthy Church by Peter Scazzero, you should. It is an important read. He has a follow up to that one called Emotionally Healthy Spirituality.
But, here is a basic overview and the heart of The Emotionally Healthy Church.
The following six principles are interrelated and build upon each other.
Principle 1: Look Beneath the Surface. Becoming aware of how we respond, relate, and react in our daily life often involves more than our first-glance thoughts and intentions of the moment.
Principle 2: Break the Power of the Past. Realizing the degree to which our families of origins have shaped how we see the world, handle conflicts, and deal with emotions.
Principle 3: Live in Brokenness and Vulnerability. Realizing that we are all very broken people and that none of us comes to Jesus Christ with a “Get-Out-Of-Discipleship-for-Free” card. We all must be profoundly retrained, retaught, reworked, and reshaped under his lordship and grace.
Principle 4: Receive the Gifts of Limits. In our brokenness, we begin to see that God has blessed us with limitations that we must learn to embrace and receive instead of fight and deny. We were all born with certain limits, others were thrust upon us, and still others were a result of our own choices.
Principle 5: Embracing Grieving and Loss. In seeing the limits of our life, especially the ones over which we have no control, we enlarge our soul by grieving the reality that we can never do and be all that we’ve hoped for on this side of the new heavens and new earth.
Principle 6: Make Incarnation Our Model for Loving Well. Getting better acquainted with our own limits, our own past, our own brokenness, and ourselves, we can hold onto to ourselves and love others more freely by entering into their world without losing our true self.
Via JR Woodward.
Any other “principles” you’d add from your own experience…?