I loved this from one of my favourite writers, Anglican Priest Kenneth Leech:
“…True self-love means not trying to escape from ourselves, but listening to the voices within us … This involves the acceptance of our fundamental aloneness, not seeking to reduce it, not hoping that friendship, marriage, community, or group, will take it away. That aloneness is an integral part of being human, and an essential element in love. It is out of that aloneness that it becomes possible to respond rather than merely react to people and needs. Response has to grow and emerge out of the depths of myself: it is my response, born out of my inner struggle and inner self-knowledge, out of my spirit, my deepest core. This is what spirituality is about…”
True Prayer: An Introduction to Christian Spirituality (London: Sheldon Press, 1980), p. 44.