As I talk to people, one of the many “cages” they often find themselves “trapped” in is that of unforgiveness. For some it’s their own unwillingness to forgive, while for others it is their not being forgiven, not being given the love, space and opportunity to grow and change – they’re forever trapped in the past.
While not the whole picture, Marianne Williamson is nonetheless helpful when she writes:
“… Forgiveness is the choice to see people as they are now. When we are angry at people, we are angry because of something they said or did before this moment. But what people said or did is not who they are. Relationships are reborn as we let go perceptions of [that person’s]. ‘By bringing the past into the present, we create a future just like the past’ [; people who can only ever be what they were in the past]. By letting the past go, we make room for miracles…”
- Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course of Miracles, p. 96.