An interesting description of the point of marriage that regularly comes across my path. My challenges remain: how to paraphrase it (for it is to talk subversively of love in times where it has been rendered shallow, unsustaining, insipid, and self-serving; in times when genuine love is both longed for and feared); how to get inside it; and how to practically live out of it such that love grows more deeper and expansive; richer and more fearlessly and courageously healing and transformative…?
“…The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his [or her] solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming–in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvellous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky…”
~ Rainer Maria Rilke.