“Being an adult means taking responsibility for my own emotional life.
Adults do not blame other people for their inner state. They do not project their feelings onto external stimuli. They avoid expressions like, “You make me feel…”
The independent California spiritual teacher, Adyashanti expresses this truth with clarity saying:
Nobody is making you feel what you’re feeling. Nobody has the power to make you feel something negative emotionally. Your reactions are caused by how you interpret any situation. This is so important because it means that you ultimately become your own resource of emotional freedom and truth. The Way of Liberating Insight.
Turmoil and negative emotion are frequently triggered by the story I attach to the circumstances of my life. It is the narrative I build around a situation that causes the pain. I need to pay attention to the way I “interpret any situation.” I need to be honest about the fact that my story about you and your behaviour, thoughts, words, or deeds is always just my story. It may or may not have any bearing in reality…”
You can read Page’s complete post here. Read in conjunction with other great material on the adult emotional life, there is wisdom and greater emotional wellbeing to be found. For example, I recommend Robert Augustus Masters’ Emotional Intimacy: A Comprehensive Guide for Connecting with the Power of Your Emotions.